I remember that moment when she told me about the lights in the shopping centre SO clearly, because it was a turning point in our relationship with Chloe's (SPD, ASD & Anxiety) brain and in our understanding of this new neurodiverse world we were thrown into. Suddenly we felt this obvious gap between society's expectations of the "norm"... (the pre-programmed view of what life should play out like)... and what our family now wants, needs and lives every day.