Let's talk Mum to Mum about Mother's Day

At this time of year, it’s easy to feel bombarded by ads telling us to   

"Buy Mum a smelly candle / day-spa gift voucher / diamond necklace -
TO SHOW HER YOU CARE!"

But for many of us in neurodivergent families — Mother’s Day doesn’t look like the commercials...   It’s a sensory minefield of loud cafés, itchy gift shop scarves, smelly candles and unpredictable emotions.

So let's talk Mum to Mum - about Mother's Day

  -  What Does Mother’s Day Look Like for You?

Yes, for some families this day is filled with flowers, gifts, and breakfast in bed. 
For others, especially in neurodivergent families, it might look very different.  

And that’s okay.  

In fact - it's not just okay! ....its something we would like to celebrate in our family this year 
(I’ve come to realise that I don't won't breakfast in bed.  Actually, please don’t wake me up early with toast crumbs in the sheets. LOL)

The honest truth is…

I really just want to cuddle each one of my kids and hope that they sit still long enough for me to stare at their face and slowly take in every freckle, every dimple, every delicious eyelash, every twinkle, every soft messy hair on their head. That’s all.

In our family this year I don't want shiny presents or fanfare.  No crowded café brunch, no sensory overload, no opening presents and trying to make sure I say the right thing, or trying to work out just the right present to give my Mum that shows just how much I truly love and appreciate her (which let’s be honest is IMPOSSIBLE coz I can't buy the EARTH from a gift shop). 

So instead,  I've just asked for a quiet moment to be deeply grateful — for the privilege of being a Mum, still having a Mum, and being grateful for our Mums, Grandmas and Great Grandmas of the past and the wisdom that they have shared from generation to generation. That’s all. 

AND that quiet moment does not have to happen ON Mothers Day   It could be today, right now, tomorrow, or even the day after mother's day.  Let’s be honest.  Quiet moments and ND families don’t always go together.  You have permission to get creative and think of Mothers Day in a way that works for you and your family. xo

Last Mother’s Day I had a different CRAZY idea!  

I asked to rearrange our mattresses to create one gigantic bed for the 4 of us! So we all go to sleep together in the lounge room   
It was so wonderful.  And really filled my bucket.  This Mother's Day you absolutely can ask for things that aren't the "social norm". 

 We’d love to hear from you:

What does Mother’s Day mean in your world?
Do you have gentle, grounded, or fun, crazy traditions? — or do you skip it altogether?

Let’s help others in our tribe to feel that it’s ok to ask to do WHATEVER lights them up this year.

If you do something different that works for your sensory household, hit reply and tell us.  We’d love to share your story with the rest of the Sensory Super Heroes tribe (with your permission, of course ).

Kally & Jenna